It’s not wise to plan an overnight with your new love interest in your home right away because it can increase rivalry between them and your kids.
Having your new partner spent the night should only be an option once you are fairly sure that your relationship is permanent or you are engaged.
Let your children know that you have an abundance of love to go around.
I felt too awkward to ask directly, “hey, your colleague buddy sounds cool, I’d like to meet him”, because he was so cagey (he has not even told me the guy’s name).
They are spending the weekend on day trips and I understand why he might not want to invite me to those — he wants to spend time with his buddy & colleague, that’s all cool. I have wanted to introduce him to my friends (I am an ex-pat in this country and my friend pool is fairly small because a lot of people have left (we live in a war zone) but he is a bit dismissive of the things we do – boardgames, Cards Against Humanity etc. I have no clue why he doesn’t seem to want me to meet people from his life, and I know it’s pointless to speculate.
For example, Caroline, a 36-year-old teacher, described her new partner Kevin as thoughtful, affectionate, and a great match for her.