It's important to know the difference between the two. Then you will end up joining the crew of people saying what a jerk he is.
While you can argue that no one should ever tell you what to do, if the guy in your life genuinely feels uncomfortable, you should at least take the time to hear him out. It's not about the money, you would be happy with a simple walk in the park. This is the guy who always invites you over to his place to "hang out." The guy who doesn't make an effort to come over to your place to see you or pick you up for a date or even takes you to the movies. The two of you spend all of your time at his place, and you start to deliberately save text messages from him just to prove to your friends that you didn't make him up. The one who's significantly older than you and refuses to spend time with your friends or family, but has the same taste in music as you and would be a really great boyfriend is he'd just stop drinking, finish college and go on that job interview his Uncle set him up with six months ago.
I chose this excerpt because post-breakup and regardless of whether you’re NC or not, the way in which you handle occasions such as birthdays, Christmas, and anniversaries can end up inviting a great deal of unnecessary pain into your life.
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Whether it's your birthday, an anniversary or Valentine's Day, he should want to be there with you.
It's true that some people don't make a big deal over holidays, but if you do, the guy in your life should try to make it extra special for you -- not give you a case of the Molly Ringwald's. The one who says, "We can't be together, right now." You've been there, I've been there, our grandmothers had probably been there. You can't believe how much the two of you have in common, how comfortable and natural it feels to be around this person.
A month or two goes by, and out of the blue he's calling asking you to hang out. But if he yells and makes you feel bad about yourself for it, he's probably not the one. I feel this only applies if you have just started dating the person, not if you are already in a relationship. He's the guy you've just met who everybody tells you is bad news.
Especially if he starts to call you names and accuses you of cheating. The one who doesn't seem to have any close friendships, has countless exes and is constantly putting people down. This can make you feel special or even feel like you have a bond with the person, but in some cases the guy will drop you after he gets bored with the nice guy routine and find a new girl to prey on.
Sending a text or posting something on their Facebook page? Equally, if all you’re doing is a genuine expression of your condolences, there shouldn’t be any thinking about getting back together, sleeping with them, or feeling that you have to stick around to get them through this time because you’re not in their life anymore and you’re not the only person capable of providing support, especially because you’re supposed to be NC. With this in mind, here are some more tips for navigating these situations: 1. I’ve heard enough painful stories of exes that suddenly got back in touch around a bereavement, birthday etc, swooped in with a whole load of big promises and showboating, acted like they were The Most Supportive Partner Ever™… There are too many people who associate the painful loss of their parent or a milestone birthday with an ex. If you’re mostly thinking about your own internal drama, you’re not really thinking about him/her and you are in fact projecting.