Maybe sending dirty messages throughout the day and planning a naughty evening will put you 6.Having a routine for EVERYTHING leaves no room for spontaneity. Who showers first in the morning, who can watch their show on TV, who has to work late, who is cooking dinner.Moving in with your man is a major relationship milestone.
My parents warned me against it in sometimes crude terms -- "he won't pay for what he gets for free" -- an oblique reference that living together eliminated David's need to marry me since he was getting laid while staying rogue. "Nice girls wait until they see a ring," I was told.
We, in turn, accused them of preferring a 1968 version of "don't ask, don't tell," where they didn't really care what we did just as long as their relatives and friends didn't find out about it.
The comforts of living together are great, but can replace the parts of your relationship where romance , so not taking care of it equally can create a real riff in your relationship and act as a sign of disrespect. It turns out that it affects our relationship more now that we are living together and I need to step up my game.
It's not fair to HIM to have to keep picking up after me or to have to live in a messy apartment until I decide to clean up.
You both come to this relationship with decades of baggage in the form of children, houses, stock portfolios and accumulated wealth. The worst-case scenario is when the two partners have uneven amounts of baggage: One has invested wisely and saved, the other pretty much doesn't have two nickels to rub together.